In honor of GratiTuesday, I bring you the latest thing I am grateful for: the ability to relinquish my phone from my grasp first thing in the morning. Usually, my morning would go something like this:
Alarm rings at 5:00 am. I wake up (usually from some kind of intense dream so I’m super confused as to why Booyah by Showtek is blaring next to my face) and hit snooze to silence it. Without moving from my bed I reach with my foot and push aside the curtain to see what’s happening outside (it’s dark again in the morning, wah). I unlock my phone and start checking my apps: Instagram, Facebook, Timehop, Snapchat. I check the current temperature outside on my Weather Channel app (do I need a long sleeve?) and I look at my sleep graph logged from my Garmin vivosmart watch (yikes that is a lot of light sleep time). I give myself those 10 minutes before my snooze time is up to look at who from my high school class pushed out a baby, what I was up to 6 years ago (lolz that outfit!), 7 seconds of my cousin’s Snapchat dog video and the percent chance of rain for the day. Sometimes, not always, but more likely than not, what I see in those first 10 minutes I am awake sets the overall tone for the day.
Which, when you think about it, is really dumb. Like “you’re a dingbat!” level dumb.
Let’s think rationally about this: you’re a living, breathing, human being. It’s basically a miracle that you’re even here, alive and waking up to experience the universe. Why are you going to let what you see on a phone screen impact your day? You are special. The fact that you wake up to face the day is pretty darn special too. You should do something with those first few minutes of being awake to give those first moments of consciousness the respect they deserve.
Yes, yes – I’m aware this may sound like some hippy dippy stuff right here. But when you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Put down the phone, and think about something good. Something to give you the warm fuzzies, something that doesn’t make you want to roll over and pull the duvet back over your head. Or let your mind be blank: focus on breathing in, breathing out. Smile. Stretch in bed. Or, like the High Priestess of Booyah over here, set an intention. Some of my intentions have included:
I am enough.
You are a vibrant, beautiful being.
Close your eyes and think about it for those first few minutes. Say it out loud. Repeat it ten times. Post it on Instagram when you’re walking into work (guilty!). Whatever works for you. Think about it when you get frustrated, feel tired, a little grumpy or overwhelmed. Take a breath and say those words to yourself. It gives you something to focus on, and then you have your own secret theme of the day, that you can say out loud to your reflection in the bathroom mirror, turn the words around in your hands, and then place them inside a treasure chest and hold on to them the entire day. That way, when you need it, you can take your intention out and hold onto it for a few minutes until you find your center again.
I’ve only done this for a few days, and the impact it has had on my mood has been remarkable. Your mind is a powerful tool: use it. You alone have the power to set your mood, turn around a bad day or overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
You are powerful.
There, that’s another one you can use. 😉
So now my day goes something like this:
Alarm rings at 5:00 am. I wake up (still super confused as to why Booyah by Showtek is blaring next to my face) and hit snooze to silence it. Without moving from my bed I think of an intention: something that will make me feel good and help me get through whatever challenges I’m facing that day. I say it. I think about it. And I repeat as necessary. Some days it is easy to push the covers aside and glide forward into the day. Other days are not so easy. Those days, I say it again. I think about my breath (in, out, in, out). I empty my mind and focus on silence. When my snooze alarm goes off, I get up and go into my day, armed with that intention as a deflector shield against negative thoughts, self-doubt and any bullsh*t that comes my way.
You should give it a shot. I mean, what’s the best that could happen? 😉
Your friend L, the High Priestess of Booyah